The gap between who you perform as and who you actually are has a name.
The Identity Performance Gap (IPG). This is the work.
Most high performers are not struggling because they lack skill, discipline, or intelligence. They are struggling because the version of themselves they deploy in high-stakes contexts has drifted far from the person who actually exists.
That distance has a cost. In decision quality. In leadership. In the quiet sense that something is fundamentally off — even when the results look right.
House of One works at that gap.
The wider the gap, the higher the cost.
IPG = Performed Self − Actual Self
Every high performer I work with carries some version of this equation — though few have ever had language for it. They have learned to perform the version of themselves that earns results. And over time, that performance becomes the default setting.
The Gap is not a character flaw. It is a structural consequence of sustained high achievement. Adaptations that were once strategic accumulate into a distance you eventually cannot ignore.
Closing the gap is not about dismantling what you have built. It is about ensuring the person who built it — and the person who inhabits what it has become — are the same.
That is the work of House of One.
Who I Work With
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High performers who have outrun their sense of self
The results are there. The trajectory is strong. But somewhere in the accumulation of success, the person doing the work has become harder to locate. You are performing well and feeling inexplicably hollow.
Senior leaders whose confidence is holding, but not holding right
You project certainty. Internally, there is a persistent gap between how you appear under pressure and how you actually feel in those moments. The performance is impeccable. The foundation is less certain than the performance suggests.
Founders and executives at a transition point
A role change, an exit, a significant expansion, a reinvention. The strategy is clear. What is less clear is who you are becoming in it — and whether the identity you are carrying forward is still the right one.
Elite athletes navigating identity beyond performance
When the performance is the identity, and the performance ends or shifts, what remains? House of One works specifically with athletes confronting this question — in transition, in recovery, or in the renegotiation of what excellence means at a new stage.
How This Works
This is not coaching in the conventional sense.
What I offer is personal advisory work — the kind of thinking partnership that belongs in the private office, not the group programme. My background spans social work, law (barrister and IP practice), and senior roles at Meta and Warner Bros. Discovery. That breadth is not decorative. It is the source of a particular capacity to hold complexity, challenge received thinking, and work at the level where identity and performance intersect.
The work begins with the Identity Performance Gap as a diagnostic framework. Where is the gap showing up? What is it costing? What would it take to close it — specifically, not in general terms?
Everything that follows is built from that starting point.
The work covers
The advisory relationship addresses different dimensions of the gap depending on what the client brings:
— Identity clarity and the gap between performed and actual self
— Confidence built on self-trust rather than external validation
— Decision-making under pressure from a grounded rather than performed position
— Leadership presence that comes from identity rather than role performance
— Transitions — role, career, identity — navigated without losing continuity of self
— Belonging in rooms that typically require performance in exchange for access
Available As…
Intensive Advisory
A concentrated engagement of 3–4 sessions designed to address a specific, high-priority gap
Ongoing Advisory
A retained relationship for clients who want consistent, high-level thinking partnership over time
SLT Work
Identity-level work for leadership teams where the collective gap is affecting performance
Measure Your Gap.
The IPG Audit — free, takes five minutes.
Most people operate inside their gap without ever having measured it.
The IPG Audit is a scoring worksheet designed to surface where the distance between your performed self and your actual self is most significant — across five dimensions: decisions, communication, energy, relationships, and direction.
It does not produce a diagnosis. It produces a starting point. A number you can work from rather than a vague sense that something is off.
What you receive:
— The IPG Audit worksheet (two pages, designed for honest self-assessment)
— A scoring guide with interpretation at each level
This is free. No purchase required.
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ABOUT ME
I have spent my career working across contexts that rarely intersect.
Social work. The Bar. Intellectual property law. Senior strategy and advisory roles at Meta and Warner Bros. Discovery. And now, House of One — a practice built specifically around the question of what happens to identity inside sustained high performance.
My background is not a career pivot story. It is a series of deliberate transitions, each one driven by the same underlying question: what does it cost to perform an identity that is not quite yours?
That question is the foundation of every conversation I have with clients.
I work with a small number of people at any one time. The work is confidential, rigorous, and designed to produce a shift that holds — not a temporary reset, but a structural change in the relationship between who you perform as and who you actually are.
Ex. Meta, Warner Bros. Discovery | Founder, House of One | Creator, The Transformation Journal | Host, Percipience The Podcast
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In 2024, I launched my very own podcast, Percipience. This podcast is a home to the exceptional stories of people who have been instrumental in shaping social and cultural change, globally. This podcast is for the curious minds.
My hope through this podcast is that we can go on a journey together that helps you see your uniqueness and the limitlessness within you; the power you have to help create a better world.
I’m your host, Romanna Dadral. Join me as I sit with the brightest minds to hear real stories, experiences, learnings, & hurdles as we celebrate and embrace the sucky moments which created paths to true impact.
“Being coached by Romanna was transformational and she really supported me on my journey of self discovery and helped re-build my confidence. I would highly recommend coaching with Romanna for those that are ready to make changes and open to new ways of thinking.“
Katy, B.
VP - HR
“Your coaching style is unlike any other. Your expertise, dedication, and genuine commitment to your clients' success sets you apart as a truly exceptional business coach”
Arti, S.
Realtor & Entrepreneur
“Romanna brings a wealth of knowledge and skills, drive to achieve as well as reliability. She is not afraid to challenge and I cannot recommend her enough as a coach. If you are looking for a no nonsense yet empathetic coach, Romanna should be your go to!”
Wayne, G.
Security Risk Management Consultant
Questions?
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The word coaching has become imprecise. It covers a range of things — from mindset work to accountability partnerships to therapeutic conversations — and much of what is offered under that label is not what happens here.
What I offer is better described as personal advisory work. It is rigorous, confidential, and built around a specific diagnostic framework — the Identity Performance Gap. The conversations are substantive. The work produces structural change, not surface adjustment. The relationship is built for people who operate at a level where generic frameworks are more noise than signal.
If you have worked with coaches before and found the process either too soft or too formulaic, this is likely the distinction you were looking for.
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High performers, senior leaders, founders, and elite athletes at a point where the gap between performance and identity has become impossible to ignore — or where they want to address it before it does.
The clients I work with are not typically in crisis. They are functioning at a high level and experiencing some version of the same signal: the work is good but the person doing it feels increasingly distant from it, or the confidence is there but not resting on anything solid, or the results are right but the direction isn't.
If any of those resonates, the conversation is worth having.
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It begins with an assessment of where the Identity Performance Gap is showing up — across decisions, presence, confidence, direction, and relationships.
From there, the engagement is shaped by what the client brings. There is no fixed programme, no pre-built curriculum. The framework is consistent; the application is specific to the person.
Sessions are typically 60–90 minutes. The format is conversation, not exercise. The pace is led by what the work requires.
Transformed “being underestimated” into a strategic advantage
Gained unshakeable self-belief and clarity in their vision
Achieved bold career and personal breakthroughs
Crafted purpose-driven legacies and meaningful impact
Reclaimed time, energy, and confidence by letting go of masks that no longer serve them
If you’re ready to rewrite the rules and lead from your authentic core, this is your next move.
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Intensive engagements run for 3–4 sessions and are designed to address a specific, high-priority gap with focus and speed.
Ongoing advisory relationships are retained month by month for clients who want consistent, high-level thinking partnership. The work evolves with what the client is facing.
There is no minimum commitment beyond the initial engagement.
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Completely. Every engagement at House of One is held in strict confidence. Nothing discussed is shared, referenced, or used outside the advisory relationship.
This is a non-negotiable feature of the work — not a courtesy. The quality of what is possible in the room depends entirely on the safety of what happens in it.
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The best way to find out is to have a conversation. A brief, no-obligation call is available for anyone who is seriously considering the work. There is no sales process. If it is the right fit, we will both know.
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